What is Mature Love
Crushes in our Younger Years
“What is mature love” is a journey of discovery at every cycle of your life. You never know how it will affect you and those around you. Love will teach you different things throughout your life. It will not always be joyful, but it will sometimes be magical, and it will often surprise you. You will have crushes in your early years!
Crushes in our Younger Years
Crushes in Our Early Teen Years
Crushes in our early teen years were primarily based on looks. Perhaps we were attracted to their behavior, bad or good. If we found some guy we thought was both kind and cute and we felt attracted, we were pretty well hooked. These crushes sometimes only lasted for a few days, or a few weeks at best.
Perhaps we fell for a favorite teacher, a doctor or some other person who influenced us as we were growing up. This is what my mom called “puppy love” and usually made comments about how silly I was. This wasn’t a very smart move on her part. I, on the other hand thought this was true love.
It may not have been a mature kind of love, however it is serious enough to affect us. Parents should considered those feelings and not poke fun. We got our ideas about love by watching our parents interact. Some of us by listening to music and making decisions based on the lyrics that we heard day after day. We read books and watched TV, believing that what we read and saw was for real.
We probably assumed that when we developed a crush on someone who affected us so much that we were in love. There was hardly a moment that passed by that we could think about anything else but our crush. We couldn’t concentrate on anything else and couldn’t sleep, and it felt like love. Therefore, we concluded that we must be in love.
Crushes in our Younger Years Developed out of Fascination
Mature Love Knows
Crushes in our younger years developed out of fascination, not because they had a wonderful personality. In those younger years, it was more about looks and popularity. How many of us had crushes on TV and movie personalities or musicians we heard on radio? All that truly mattered was that our emotions were in charge, but emotions are not enough to base love upon.
Mature People Know
Mature people know that “love” does not happen over night and it takes time to develop, Attraction plays a huge roll in the process, but so do pheromones, our frame of mind, and so does our environment. These all play a roll on our love journey.
A whole lot of things are going on in and around us when we become attracted to someone.
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