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Mature Love and how Love Manifests Itself Throughout a Lifetime of Growth

Mature love and how love manifests itself throughout a lifetime, is all about growth. It is also about the development of the love we have for ourselves and others.

Mature people know that even if today is a horrible day, tomorrow can be much better. They understand that the bad patches are just as beneficial to a relationship as the good times. And are often a means to growth.

Bad times can be frightening but can often reveal hidden issues. In my experience it seems that the same issues tend to crop up again and again. Those issues also tend to escalate until they are acknowledged and dealt with.

Therefore, it is best to deal with issues as they crop up, and as quickly as possible. Even if the issue seems to be trivial, if it keeps cropping up, it must be acknowledged. It may be a serious problem for one, but not for the other.

For example, I have a problem when I spend hours cleaning and my friend couldn’t care less. I have concluded that this issue will never turn out to my benefit. Therefore, I had to accept it or find a new place to live. I chose to keep living with my friend.

Keeping these issues buried is not the answer. Issued must be discussed, until each person is satisfied with the outcome. It may not be perfect, but then you can move on. The issue often just dissolves, and rarely, if ever, crops up again. At the very least, you will know there is no sense arguing about the issue.

Miscommunication

There are many issues that are caused by miscommunication, and therefore, issues get blown out of proportion. Someone says something and we heard them speak, but we misunderstood the meaning. An argument ensues and half the time, we just got the wrong end of the stick.

Learning to communicate effectively will eliminate tons of issues. I would be willing to bet that misunderstandings crop up in most families every day. It could be something simple and hardly noticed, however, it could cause a serious issue down the road. Problems are less likely to occur when you understand what is being communicated. You may not always catch things on time, but it’s great when you do.

Couples usually learn a great deal about one another during these discussions, and growth develops consequently. You may learn about your partner’s willingness to work on the difficulties of communication, for example. And their tolerance for understanding when you get things wrong occasionally.

Arguments, once clarified and dealt with, can make a relationship stronger. They can also make you stronger as an individual and teach you about communication and understanding.