What is Mature Love? Part 8

 

 

Taking Responsibility for Your Behavior

 

 

Mature love means taking responsibility for one’s own behavior and to stop making excuses for yourself. When we are in a relationship we have a responsibility to be dependable. Your partner should not have to worry weather you are keeping your word or not.

Your word should really mean something, that you are trustworthy and reliable. For example, when you say something, tell the truth. If you say you are going to do something, do it. Be honest with others and yourself. And please do not blame someone else when you break your word, this is not the action of a mature person. 

 

 

We Cannot Always Count on a Specific Outcome

 

 

There are so many things, so many people, and so many instances where we cannot count on a specific outcome. There are too many excuses, people lying, people not showing up when they said they would.

People showing up late with lame excuses, and people cheating us in one way or another. Not only individuals, but groups of people, such as political parties, that make excuses they never mean to keep. Sales people who promise you their products good, or are excellent quality, and the list goes on.

Is it too much to ask of our partner to be someone we can completely depend upon? Too much to ask for honesty and integrity from the person that we love?

Keep Your Word

 

 

Part of taking responsibility for your behavior is about keeping your word. Do not make promises you have no intention of keeping. If you find you have lied, or that things are not going to turn out, do not make excuses, tell the truth.

If you mess up, be big enough to explain why, be honest about what happened. Genuinely apologize and make up for it. 

Keeping your word is always important, especially to those you love. This is how you take responsibility for your behavior.

 

 

Responsibility can be a Simple Task

Take Responsibility for Your Behavior

 

 

Responsibility can be so simple a task, and can prevent so much frustration.  It can be as simple as being honest. Making a quick call if you are going to be late, helps others not to worry about you. So many people never get that call. They wait, worry, get agitated, and end up getting into arguments because they are so confused. A quick call could eliminate all that hassle.

Think about ways that others could have prevented your suffering if they had only been responsible for their behavior.

When you are responsible you not only help the other but you help yourself too. If you cannot be trusted to make a simple call, how can you be trusted with bigger stuff?

If you lie, make promises you cannot keep, cheat, and do other dishonest things, then you are not dependable. Once you have been dishonest it is difficult to trust you again. So, think twice before you decide to deceive someone, especially a loved one.

 

 

Link to: What is Mature Love: Part 1