We Learn as Babies How to Get What we Want
Feeling Anger Seems to Give us Power
Feeling anger seems to give us power. We learn as babies how to get what we want. For example, if we cry and raise a big fuss then we get picked up, fed, cuddled and taken care of. As we get a bit older we cry harder, yell and scream, stomp our feet and say “no” when we are told what to do. Sometimes we end up getting our own way. Maybe mom, dad, or our caregiver is tired or frustrated. They may think it will be much easier on everybody if they just give in. Thus, we learn to use anger to get what we want.
Sooner or later, however, we make demands that cannot or will not be fulfilled. As we grow up a bit more we should learn that we cannot always have what we want. And in turn learn to tame the monster within us. As adults, we should have learned to deal with our anger in an appropriate way. However, we have also learned that holding onto our anger gives us the feeling of being in control.
Unfortunately, anger feels a whole lot better than being under someone else controlling us. It beats the feeling of hurt, fear of abandonment and other feelings we had when we were babies. But we are no longer babies; we need to learn that anger is not control at all.
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