Families and Love

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Why Hugging is so Important

Hugs are special and we all need hugs now and again and we also need to give them. Hugs come in different styles, from the casual hello to the romantic embrace. Hugging makes us feel good and they are free.

 

 

 

 

 
♥ Those special hugs.
♥ Why hug?
♥ The Messages Hugs Convey.
♥ Types of hugs.
♥ The rescuing hug.
♥ Ask permission from those you don’t know very well.

 

 

 

Those Special Hugs.

What would life be without that wonderful warm embrace called the hug? Hugs from mom and dad, brother, sister, best friend, spouse, that little kid who steels your heart every time you see him, we need hugs, end of. We love that first hug from the one who has stolen our heart, our sweetheart. I love those special warm hugs when my baby leaves for work in the morning and the one we give one another when he arrives home safely every day. The hug I fall asleep in and the one I wake up in. The hugs I receive from my friends when we see one another after being apart for so long. The best hugs are those I get from my sons and the awesome ones I get from my precious grandchildren. How blessed we all are to receive and to give hugs.

 

Why Hug?

 

 

I believe that hugs are good medicine, therapeutic, good for the soul, I can feel an energy exchange during a hug. They just make me feel good, either giving or receiving a hug. I even feel good passing them on for someone when they can’t be there to do so themselves. The classic, “can you give so and so a hug for me?”

 

 

The Messages Hugs Convey.

We need hugs and to give hugs because they can and usually do convey a message;
♥ I love you so much.
♥ I’m so happy to see you.
♥ Congratulations, I’m so happy for you, .
♥ You’re my best buddy.
♥ I’m so sorry.
♥ If you need protection, I’m right here for you, so don’t cry, and don’t worry.
♥ You can lean on me. because I really care about you, and I know you are hurting.
♥ You’re home and safe and I’m so excited to see you.
♥ Good bye, I’m so sorry to see you go, be safe, and come back as soon as you can.

Types of Hugs.

 

According to Kathleen Keating, R.A., M.N., author of “The Hug Therapy Book”, hugs take on many forms depending on what you want to communicate;

The bear hug…ideal for two individuals of disproportionate sizes and for saying “you’re terrific” or “you can count on me”.

    1. The A-frame…brief embrace ideal for little known relatives and situations requiring a bit of formality. All of the hugging takes place over the neck. Communicates polite caring or detached warmth.
    2. The cheek hug…a tender hug that says “I’m sorry you’re disappointed”, it is ideal to share joy or when greeting an elderly individual.
    3. The group hug…Great for good friends sharing an activity or project. they communicate support, security, affection, unity and universal bonding.
    4.  Embrace side…one arm is passed around the waist of the other. Ideal for walking together or for supporting someone while walking. http ;//www.agenciatxl.com
    5. Embrace of heart… long, intense, and warm, offers unconditional love and tenderness.

 

 

 

  

 The Rescuing Hug

In May of 1966, Readers Digest published a story about a set of twins that were separated at birth, one of them was fragile and not doing so well. One of the nurses on the floor decided to break the rules and put the infants in the same bed, when the healthier baby embraced the other, the smaller baby’s heart rate stabilized, and her temperature rose to normal. This certainly expresses the importance of hugging for me. Beautiful!

You can read the rest of the story at; http://www.planetdeb.net/spirit/rescue.htm

 

 

 

 

Ask Permission Before Hugging Someone you Don’t Know Very Well.

 

Although we need hugs and need to give them, and we recognize the importance of a hug, we need to know our place. Please ask permission before hugging someone you don’t know well and/or the parent of a small child before hugging their child. Young children have not developed borders yet and usually have no say in who is allowed to hug them. I don’t usually hug people unless I know them quite well. Some people are not comfortable being hugged, so  it is best to always ask first. 

In some cultures people automatically hug, even if it’s the first time they meet. It was somewhat off putting for me when I first lived in an area where this is common, but, I got used to it. I still will not allow someone to hug me if I feel any sense of discomfort. Although we need hugs, I am not always open to them. I usually want to be asked  first if it’s ok with me.

Be polite. Ask if you’re not sure. And if there isn’t anyone around to hug and we need one, there is no harm in hugging ourselves. It may sound silly, but it actually does feel pretty good.

 

 

“Hugging has no unpleasant side effects and is all-natural. There are no batteries to replace, it’s inflation-proof and non-fattening with no monthly payments. It’s non-taxable, non-polluting, and is, of course, fully refundable”.

Anonymous

 

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