Self-Love is Essential Not Selfish.
I Had to Learn to Love Myself.
I had to learn self-love even as I cared for, and felt passionate about people who crossed my path in life. However, there was a definite load of self-hate. For years I would get up in the morning, look at myself in the mirror, tell myself how ugly, selfish, and how hateful I was. Others may have disliked me, but I was filled with self hate. I felt that I didn’t deserve love, that I deserved to be hated, and there wasn’t anyone who could do that better than I could.
Knowing that others loved me, confused me because I couldn’t figure out why. People also valued my love in return, and I gave it, I just could not love “myself”. It took a lot of years to heal from this. Loads of counselling sessions, courses in counselling, and much help from others who cared for me. They cared enough to want to help me grow out of this self abuse.
It took years of hard work, but today I do actually “love myself”, I’m not so bad after all, not so ugly after all, never really was. I am worthy of love, not only from others but from myself as well! And so are “you”. Everybody is worthy of love. Some people need to change their social behaviors, some need to learn to love, but the each is worthy of love. I understand there are hurting people out there who need to look at how they live their lives as this could be part of the reason for their lack of self-love. Find out what self-love is and how to begin the process of healing if you need to.
Remember, self-love is essential, not selfish.
What is Self-Love?
What is self-love? Self-love is an acceptance of yourself. It’s accepting the good, the bad, and the ugly. We all need to recognize that we, are perfect, and we always will be. This is the way it is supposed to be, we were created that way. Always remember, self-love is essential, not selfish.
How do you feel about those people out there who who love themselves? I don’t know about you, but I love being with them. These are not the people who think they are better than everybody else, but people who truly love themselves. I like the average Joe, who has a good sense of self esteem, takes care of himself, and treats everyone with the same respect that he has for himself.
Self-Love is Not a Selfish Thing.
Paragraphs two and three could have been written by me. Perhaps it's not too late to change things just a bit.
Love….
Thanks for the comment, and yes, I do believe you can change, a little bit at a time will do, keep your chin up. Let me know how things go. have a great night.
I'm very happy that you decided to start this website, I look forward to reading it in the future.
This post was excellent, you had me interested right from the opening sentence "The old cliche suggests we cannot love others until we love ourselves, however,I do not completely agree" I think you proved your point very well. Great job and keep up the good work.
Thank Jeramy, hope you keep coming back for more. You're going to love the one on "hugs", it's coming very soon. Why not subscribe to my blog, that way you won't miss it.
Have a great day!
Someow I managed to reload (unintentionally–and the comments were easy to read although the pale ones are still on the page.
Looking forward to the next installment.
Love aluap
btw: does anyone else have trouble posting comments–I end up having a "word verification". Just wondered.
Hi aluap, sorry you're having trouble with the light colored comments at the end of the page, however, you can generally see them all posted at the end of each blog, if you follow me every day, you shouldn't miss any of them and the darker shade makes them easier to see.
As far as the word verication, it is used all the time, so don't worry about it.It is there to prevent automated systems from adding comments to the blog.
Glad you are still enjoying my blog, good to have you along.