Why You Need To Know Who You Are And What You Want For Yourself!
- Begin by Asking Questions
- You Can Aim For a Better Life
- Learn to Listen to Your Feelings
- Don’t Allow Others to Tell You Who You Are
- My Point is
- What You Can do Today
Begin by Asking Questions
Know who you are
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Know who you are and what you want. How many of us are fully aware of who we are and what we want for ourselves? Do we actually sit ourselves down and ask ourselves, “if I could be anything I wanted to be what would that be? If the life I wanted was suddenly handed to me, what would that look like?”. How many of us just settle for the lives we have instead of trying to figure out what we want? Also, are we living the lives we want for ourselves? Or perhaps some of us were directed in a way that others decided for us? Do we feel like we have to fit in some kind of social norm? Therefore, to live our lives according to those norms? Hell, do we even know what makes us happy?
In order to know what we want, we need to ask ourselves some of these questions. We also need to be as honest as we possibly can with the answers.
These are questions for you to respond to for “you” not for anyone else. Nobody needs to know what you are thinking or feeling about your life except yourself. Sometimes it’s best to keep things to yourself, you don’t have to share anything if you don’t want to.
You can aim for a Different Life
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You will begin to see and start thinking more about the things that make you happy. Then you can begin to decide what you want to keep and things you want to change. If something is making you unhappy, you can begin today to make changes. Why not try to find things that bring joy instead of sadness, and begin the process now. Don’t wait until your life has passed you by before you discover ways out of your unhappiness. Figure out what you want, what you want to do, what you want to be. And what kind of person you want to be.
I once knew a lady who washed dishes most of her life. At 53 or so, she decided to go to school. She took a few classes in the things that were of interest to her. She landed herself a government position and is doing what she always wanted to do. Her fear in the past, had convinced her she wasn’t good enough to start over. She had convinced herself she was too old to begin again. However, she overcame her fears.
I had my own issues for most of my life. Listening to that inner voice that had me terrified to try anything new. I started a new journey when I was 45, when I decided to change my life. I had a grade 9 education and was a single mom washing dishes for a living. However, I decided to apply for university. I graduated with my B.A. in 2003.
People do it all the time. Google how many people made if long after they began their journey in life. Loads of famous people made it big late into their 40’s a few up into their 80’s. It’s never too late to start living the life you want for yourself. No matter what stage you are in your life, you can begin to choose a new direction in life.
Learn to Listen to Your Feelings
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I discovered something about myself just recently that started to wake me up. There are things that I need to change in my life. I keep telling myself that I can do what I want to do – no matter what the hurdles. I believed what I was telling myself. But a small doubt kept creeping in and causing physical pain. I eventually realized that I was full of doubt and full of fear. Therefore, I felt like I was in a prison, I felt trapped with no way out.
I decided to start paying much closer attention to what I was feeling. There was no way I could ignore them. I paid attention, and began to change the self-talk I was producing within myself. Therefore, I eventually began to hear what the voice behind the pain was saying. “You don’t know what you’re doing, and you’re too old to change now”. I began telling myself that everything would be ok, that everything would turn out for the best. The pain has subsided dramatically, and my worries have also diminished. Now I am constantly learning to listen. When I am aware of the negativity, I can change it to positivity. I am learning to support myself. Those feelings were the key to making better choices for myself.
Don’t Allow Others to Tell you What is Best for you
You are Unique
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You know yourself better than anyone else ever could. No one can tell you who you are. Or what you have to do with your life, or how to act. Nor all the other stuff they think about you. You are the only one who can make those choices in order to be happy. These words coming from others are not about you, they are mostly about themselves. Things they may have wanted for themselves or want to hear from others. But you are unique and need to understand what is best for you from your own perspective.
Of course, there was a time when you were too young to make certain decisions for yourself. So others who took care of you made those decisions for you. It doesn’t mean they were always right, but unfortunately, we are not born with the capacity of self-care. We need direction and needed to learn how to survive as a humans. Fortunately, and at times, unfortunately, our lives were at the mercy of those caregivers. Never-the-less, no matter what anyone says, the essence of who you are was there from the very beginning. Look at anyone from babyhood to old age, there is an essence, a unique personality in all people. No two humans are alike, not twins, not even conjoined-twins are exactly the same. Even if their thoughts intertwine, they still think in their own unique way. They still have different tastes, their own styles, and interests.
You are Unique
In a society where we are all so unique, I wonder why we strive to be just like everyone else. Why do we want so badly to be a copy when we can be the unique people we are meant to be? I suppose it all boils down to wanting to fit in and to be accepted. As children and teens, we will do almost anything to belong. They go along with whatever they are told to do by their peers. No matter how wrong, painful, and destructive it can be. Against their better judgment these things are done. They will do what they have to do to be included. During our lives from baby-hood to becoming fully functioning adults, we are busy trying to fit in. By making other people happy, we never get to be who we are born to be. Therefore, we live our lives according to other people’s opinions about us.
Some of us who are fortunate enough to wake up to the realization of what we have been doing. We are giving our happiness to others in order to be accepted. Eventually, we begin to discover our own perfection and to be who we are meant to be. This, however, may never happen to some, they die still trying to please other people. If you are not loved for the unique, beautiful, amazing soul you are, is it really love? But for those of us who do wake up, we can spend more of our time rediscovering who we are. And who we want to be. We know what we want for ourselves, and so forth. We may still fall into the trap of wanting to fit in even as adults. Hopefully, you will find yourself and you will make a happier life for yourself. Therefore doing the things that make you happy.
Know who you are
Begin to ask yourself who you are, deep within yourself, the person you are when no one is watching you. What do “you” want for yourself? You may as well figure it out. Because you probably already know what everybody else wants for you. If you’re happy with the person you are and how you live your life – wonderful. You don’t have to change anything and consider yourself blessed, because of who you are. However, if you are not happy, you have every right to change those areas of your life, right now. Make yourself into the person you want to be, make yourself happy.
Also, get in touch with your feelings, they will tell you if you’re on the right track or the wrong. They will help you decide what is right for you. Other people have no right to tell you who you are. Be yourself. Imagine meeting the people you long to be friends with or maybe the perfect partner. You like them immediately, but because you have chosen the wrong crowd to hang with, they don’t want you around. And deep down inside you don’t really care for the people you call your friends either. Perhaps the new people resonate with you because deep down you are like them. And therefore, not at all like your old friends. You can choose to be the unique person you are meant to be.