Why Insecurity Makes us Feel Jealous?
Jealousy Begins in Childhood With Insecurity.
Jealousy is an Emotion That is Painful for Young Children
Jealousy is defined as the state of fear or suspicion about losing something or someone important. And this is why we feel jealousy, because of our fear.
Jealousy has always been and shall always be around. Think about Cain and Abel, Cain’s jealousy ended up causing his brother’s death, he murdered his own brother. Cain was jealous because his offering was not accepted by God, whereas, Able’s was. Jealousy is a human response and not unusual, however, it is an emotion that has to be tamed. If we don’t learn to tame it, it will create a monster within ourselves which just seems to get bigger and nastier as time goes on.
Jealousy in Adults.
Dealing with Jealousy in Adulthood.
What Jealousy Looks Like.
In relationships we sometimes feel that since we give so much of ourselves then we should receive from the other. The problem is that we seldom communicate what we want from others, therefore, they have no idea what we want. We think they should know, but the truth is, they do not know. We need to communicate to the other what we expect from them. Don’t expect to always get your own way however, it just doesn’t work that way.
As adults we should learn to tame that jealousy down. I know it isn’t that easy. I deal with it when it comes around, but still, it can be painful. It often ends in arguing, insults, misunderstandings, blaming, and anger. Half of the time I personally forget why I felt jealousy to begin with. It is usually a waste of precious time that I could have used for having a good time being with my friend.
This jealousy always begins with insecurity. I know that, so I work at it and read material that can help me cope with it. If you suffer from this issue, I advise you to learn as much as you can to help you heal from it all.
We Look at Others Who Have it Better Than we do.
Romantic Jealousy.
We often look at others who have it better than we do. I have known so many people who have cheated on their spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend. It came about, because one of their friends had a better looking mate, a wealthier mate, or whatever. They tell themselves “she’s so lucky , look how gorgeous he is, and I’m stuck with “Mr. Blah, I want more”. It doesn’t matter that Mr. Blah loves her to death, works his butt off to make her happy, would never cheat on her, and that deep down she really loves Mr. Blah. Because her eyes are green with envy, she can’t see beyond her jealousy and finds someone she thinks is the perfect man. Eventually she discovers that Mr. Perfect isn’t so perfect after all. She remembers that Mr. Blah was the best thing that ever happened to her, but now it’s too late because he has found someone new. He knows she truly appreciates who he is and all that he does for her. So much for jealousy.
Lope de Vega
Please try to remember that jealousy begins with insecurity. When you find the roots of said jealousy, you have a better chance to rid yourself of it. Try not to make serious decisions based on the beliefs that your insecurities tell you are true. Get rid of your jealousy and begin to think straight. Don’t allow jealous emotions to influence your decision making.
Link to Jealousy is an Emotion That Begins With Insecurity. Part 2