Daughter-in-Law/Mother-in-Law Relationship.
My Mother-in-Law Came From a Different Place.
The daughter-in-law/ mother-in-law relationship has been a dream for me. My mother-in-law came from a different place and a different time, her ideas were different from mine, but we had to put our differences aside. This was my family, my husband, my children, my home etc. and although I respected her opinion, I was still the one in control of my own family. We never fought or raised our voices against one another. Furthermore, we tried our best not to allow the little things to bother us too much.
We learned to talk things through, we were not mind readers and didn’t expect the other to assume she understood what the other was thinking. Communication was the key, I asked her, or told her what I needed/expected from her. This became the first order of our relationship therefore, it to worked perfectly.
Her son is now your husband, but do not forget he was her son first, she still loves him as much as she did when he was her little boy, he will come first in her life, as I was once told, “blood is thicker than water, he will always come first in her life” and he did. Let’s not forget, the son is new to all of this stuff too. Don’t make her relationship to him and your relationship to him into a competition. The mother he has was not a choice, it just is, however, he chose you, he loves you, and his mother wants what is best for her son and so please takes care of him for her. Make him happy and invite them both to keep the relationship intact.
Communication and Respect are the Key.
Communication and respect are the key. Therefore talk things through when issues arise. Respect one another. Be kind, try to understand, where each person is coming from. This is a new relationship for both of you, even if this is not your first experience with being a daughter-in-law, or her first time being a mother-in-law. This situation between you two is the first. Your best bet is to try to be happy and to be courteous to one another.
For More See Daughter-in-Law/Mother-in-Law Relationship. Part 1